Enjoying the ride........

I realized some time ago that I was spending a good part of my life in chasing the ghosts of the past. The journey ahead can never be worthwhile if you always keep looking over your shoulder and staring at the wall posts of the past; for that is what exactly they are - stationary wall posts - unwilling and often ill-equipped to move along with you. Life isn't about a single milestone or a single wall post - it is a vibrant collage of beautiful images that make up your life. Sure some images are prominent and life-like, whilst others are hazy recollections of moments best forgotten, but none of them are significant enough to define your life or your existence. People you thought would be a part of your happy ending, often walk away for reasons best known them. People you thought would see you through your lowest lows, sometimes melt away in the face of a tough challenge. You could possibly hate them or hate yourself to rationalize and sometimes intellectually justify the tragic course of events. However, I believe the best way to deal with anger, disappointment and pain is not to throw it in someone else's face or mercilessly crucify yourself, but to let it go; the toughest and ironically the easiest way to deal with it begins with forgiving and embracing yourself. Not even the wisest souls get to live their lives retrospectively; so why must we in our self-deprecating thoughts? Life isn't about 'what Ifs'.